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Such a face! Daddy Bones@ age 12, gracing the book's cover.

 

 How to Keep Your Sanity Intact When a Loved One Needs a Nursing Home  

It’s estimated that more than 50 million people provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year.

Studies show that extremely stressed caregivers can age or die prematurely. 

“Bette Davis said ‘old age is no place for sissies,’ but caring for an older loved one isn’t for the feint of heart, either,” says Bones. “I loved my dad and we were very close, but the strain of ‘putting’ him in a nursing home was so overwhelming for all of us that I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown.”

Becoming aware of some of the don’ts” of long-term care can make daily life easier for nursing home residents and for their family caretakers,” she notes.

Bones offers some key examples from her Nursing Home Checklist:

· Ask clergy, family, and friends - especially those in the health care field - to recommend outstanding nursing homes.

· When touring a nursing home, ask other visitors for frank feedback about the facility. Don’t just inspect the “sample” room, look into residents’ rooms to check for cleanliness.

· Assure your loved one that you will be their ongoing advocate.

· Visit your loved one often and at varying times of the day - and night. This alerts all of the caregivers that you are keeping an eye on your loved one.

· Get to know the staff, especially your loved one’s immediate caregivers.

· Thank the employees for the thankless job that they do.

· Put your loved one’s name on all their belongings, including clothes and personal products. Never leave money or valuables in their room.

· Place a quilt, photos and other small touches to create a “homey” room.

· Put a brief bio and picture of your loved one at the entrance of their room to “introduce” them to staff and visitors.

. Bring old photos when you visit your loved one - it will give you something to look at if conversation lags.

. Bring different edible treats to spice-up the resident's menu.

 

 


 

 

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Monday
Mar222010

Have Merci

(ME) So do you have anything planned for our 10th wedding anniversary?

(HIM) Well, no, but I was thinking we should talk about that...

(ME) Well, start talking, mister, because our anniversary is only a month away...

And thus began our whirlwind journey to London and Paris to celebrate a decade of love and not strangling each other.

It was a quick trip, three nights in London and two in Paris, that we booked only three weeks before our departure. It's easy to organize a vacation online - who needs a travel agent! - after you sit at your desk for three hours at a stretch, only to give up, cursing like a Green Beret, after you cannot find the key web page with the Eurorail information and then your computer freezes, which is just as well because your back feels like you just climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro, and then resume the trip-planning process the next evening, eventually putting in the equivalent of a full working day to easily design a voyage that is "only a click away."

To sum it up, we had a fabulous time. London was a blast (go see BILLY ELLIOTT - it had it all: singing, acting, story, props - a true winner) and Paris was the most beautiful city I have ever seen in my life. Now I know why they write songs, novels and plays about the City of Light, an embarrassment of architectural riches, smartly-dressed women and men who can wear violet woolen scarves around their neck and still look daringly dashing.

Were we the Ugly Americans while we were abroad? Let's just say that we were the slightly homely citizens of the United States. In London, we valiantly tried to keep up while the massive crowds zipped through the tube stations (keep to the right on those escalators, people, or you'll bloody get run over). In Paris, we were starstruck and bumbling as only two people who never learned a word of French in high school could be (he, German; me, Spanish and Latin). When I greeted the clerk in the Eiffel Tower gift shop with "Merci" (thank you) instead of "Bonjour! (hello), she grumbled something that I think translated into "This moron just may win the 'Stupid American' of the week award - what a complete idiot!"

Despite our floundering, we were thrilled to finally use our passports and to get out of snow-filled Dodge for a spell. We saw more works of art (The Mona Lisa, Venus de Milo, the National Portrait Gallery, etc., etc.), ate more goodies and walked more miles than a middle-aged, middle-class twosome could ask for.

So I'd like to extend a huge "thank you, Europe"...or is to "hello?"...oh, well, you know what I'm trying to say: Everyday, ordinary life might sometimes prove to be tough, but I am true-dat grateful that we'll always have London and Paris.

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Reader Comments (1)

Im glad to see your blog was updated.I understand you were peeved at me for mentioning you blog was a little outdated.

Since youtook in London and Paris in 5 days have you given any thought to another book "Around the world in 5 days".Just curious.Glad to see your blog is up and running again.

March 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterbutch discher

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