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Such a face! Daddy Bones@ age 12, gracing the book's cover.

 

 How to Keep Your Sanity Intact When a Loved One Needs a Nursing Home  

It’s estimated that more than 50 million people provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year.

Studies show that extremely stressed caregivers can age or die prematurely. 

“Bette Davis said ‘old age is no place for sissies,’ but caring for an older loved one isn’t for the feint of heart, either,” says Bones. “I loved my dad and we were very close, but the strain of ‘putting’ him in a nursing home was so overwhelming for all of us that I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown.”

Becoming aware of some of the don’ts” of long-term care can make daily life easier for nursing home residents and for their family caretakers,” she notes.

Bones offers some key examples from her Nursing Home Checklist:

· Ask clergy, family, and friends - especially those in the health care field - to recommend outstanding nursing homes.

· When touring a nursing home, ask other visitors for frank feedback about the facility. Don’t just inspect the “sample” room, look into residents’ rooms to check for cleanliness.

· Assure your loved one that you will be their ongoing advocate.

· Visit your loved one often and at varying times of the day - and night. This alerts all of the caregivers that you are keeping an eye on your loved one.

· Get to know the staff, especially your loved one’s immediate caregivers.

· Thank the employees for the thankless job that they do.

· Put your loved one’s name on all their belongings, including clothes and personal products. Never leave money or valuables in their room.

· Place a quilt, photos and other small touches to create a “homey” room.

· Put a brief bio and picture of your loved one at the entrance of their room to “introduce” them to staff and visitors.

. Bring old photos when you visit your loved one - it will give you something to look at if conversation lags.

. Bring different edible treats to spice-up the resident's menu.

 

 


 

 

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Monday
Feb222010

For God's Sake, Find Something to DO!

Did anyone notice the clickety-clack typing noise in the background during Tiger Woods' mea culpa speech?

It was the sound a typewriter makes when someone bangs away at the keys - some of you remember that clatter, don't you? It sounds downright anachronistic - I thought Lois Lane and Clark Kent were going to grab their fedoras and head over to the newsroom to get the story to the copy boy before deadline. Very strange...and distracting. What the heck, did one of the journalists/cheerleaders at the "news conference" lug their Old Royal portable typewriter to the gathering? I need this one ' splained, people!

Anyway, forget about Tiger, I can't get over the crowd of high school kids who terrorized downtown Philly last week. It happened on a weekday after school let out for the day and the students organized a little gathering on Facebook. The group grew fairly large and vocal so they were booted from a Center City mall area. Undeterred, they went on a rampage on one of the main downtown streets, hitting people, knocking down displays in a department store, etc.

For some weird reason, the whole unfortunate scene made me think of what my brother-in-law used to say to his daughters when they were young and feeling bored. "Find something to do," he would tell them in a firm but fatherly way. But I always liked that saying because it went hand in hand with the "idle hands are the devil's workshop" theory. I can relate. When I have no pending work deadlines, I tend to accomplish little in other areas of my life. I NEED something to do to function well.

Which brings me back to the school kids-gone-wild - they seem to have too much dang time on their hands. And I have a question: Who paid for their Internet or Blackberry access to Facebook - Mommy or Daddy? Then cut it off, Ma and Pa, and tell Sonny Boy or Girl to get a job to pay for their own technology. Nothing like a job to keep you from beating the crap of some innocent bystander! Yes, yes, of course, the economy is in the pits and official jobs are scare, but people still need babysitters, they still could use someone to run errands for Grandmom and they may even be willing to pay a motivated teen to clean their house, walk their dog or wash their car. I know a high school kid who made $300 last week by knocking on doors and shoveling mounds of snow, and she weighs about 100 pounds on a good day.

I fully realize that it's a complicated situation, but one possible way to avoid further melees may be to ask parents to supervise their kids' schedule a bit more. And if it turns out that some of our city's youth have enough time to squeeze-in a riot, then just maybe they also have the time to fit a part-time job or even - heaven forbid! - volunteer work into their routine.

Just a thought. Now get cracking and for God's sake, FIND SOMETHING TO DO!

 

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Just got around to reading last week's blog. Frank will be so proud to have been quoted! I'm sure the girls still hear those words revirbirating in their heads. But it must have served them well - none of them seem to have a lot of idle time on their hands. Occasionally, as parents, you say or do something right. The improtant thing is to keep trying.

March 1, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRE

Nicely portrayed. Although I would not expect anything indifferent from you.

April 1, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLilbet Yuravage

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